You were correct in your honesty, but wrong in its presentation.

See, truth usually arrives unkempt. Its a pre-civil brute comfortable with not bathing, unkeen on clothes, and ignorant of manners. Someone may have great honesty, and no friends for it. Tact is the distinguishing trait. Send your honesty to finishing school. Make it a lady! Truth is powerful. It should be handled conscientiously to friends, and with female delicacy.

Now,

The Knight of Cups suggested I send you this.

Things to Remember
(Don't place somewhere you'll likely forget)

1. You’re only that part of yourself that refuses to die. That won’t let you die. That’s our only constant. Everything else is up for grabs. By compromising your heart's needs, things essential to you on the deepest emotional level, you will be forfeiting that part of you that keeps you alive, because it is sustained by those needs being met.

2. ‘Just one more’ is the lynchpin in the cycle of addiction.
By resuming talks you’re continuing the relationship.
Every time you speak to them they believe the relationship is starting over. 'Mum’ is the word that will relieve you. Close the portals between you and them. Each has contact with your heart.

3. Be wary of anyone who would have you ‘forget’. Forgetting amounts to brain damage! You have, and will be asked again to forget. Forget me, forget your scars, forget you’re beautiful, forget where you’re going, forget things done to you, and forget things owed you.

You inflict enough forgetting on your brain and you’ll be stuck stupid! Forgiveness and memory impairment aren’t the same! Scratch forgetting, scratch the lotus eaters! You can forgive without placing yourself in a position to be abused again.

4. Anger is hell of a lot more useful an emotion than sadness. Anger is dignity’s guard dog! Demand offerings from would-be atoners. Even God asks you grill’em some ribs in trade of absolution. Follow suit. Ask for a sacrifice in exchange of amnesty. A person’s apology can be tested by their willingness to cooperate with changes you demand.

5. I lo..li..lov..lik..love you. To me, you’re all the marshmallow in my cereal box!

You’re divine, astral, the King of Pop. Not even coronary bypass surgery could unclog my heart of thou!

Please, don’t allow yourself to wither into white space. Don’t join the fog.

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6. Do not allow someone to insult your family or past loves. Each forms a testament to who you are. They are sacred. One should take off their shoes and bow before addressing them. Shelter those significant sides of yourself from ignorant attack.

When you are ready to see them honestly, you will.


In friendliness to you,

a lover from the Lower Depths

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Everyone likes you, but no one likes you for very long.